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"Our Marriage" Poem


Our Marriage


You are my one true love,
         my best friend, my confidant.
You always believe in me even when I don't -
        you tell me to "breathe" and cheer me on.

You tell me "I have a gift" 
        when you look at my crafts
Although I know that my talents are not extraordinary
        somehow your belief in me spurs me on to do more.

You are a dreamer and I am a realist
         Even though it seems counterintuitive - your dreams keep me centered.
They encourage me to see the beauty all around me 
        while I look forward to what "can be."

We don't put on big shindigs to show our love for each other
        we go for walks, share coffee and conversations, go camping.
Our life hasn't been about events but about the small moments 
        that make up our shared life together.
I wouldn't change these times for riches or fame!

I smile when I think of all of your sayings
  • Think of the stories you can tell!
  • It doesn't get any better than this.
  • It beats working for a living!
  • You are the best thing that ever happened to me!
  • I'm better now, looking at you!
  • That's what friends are for!        
I loved sitting under your Sunday School teaching
        you made us think and apply the scriptures to our lives.
You always listened to others opinions and comments
        but gently brought us back to the truth of God's Word. 

You are always friendly to others
        and take a genuine interest in everyone.
Although you are limited in many of your favorite things now
        (like driving, teaching, camping, projects around the house, and reading)
You still enjoy going on rides in the car, listening to other good preachers, 
        going "camping" at Family Camp in McCall, 
making the bed and taking out the garbage, 
        and having me read to you.

I don't want to forget the man that I married
        even as some of your abilities and gifts fade.
You are the one that God gave me and our girls
         to love us and make us feel safe.
I am always and forever grateful that you are "mine."


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