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Today we attended the Delay the Disease class at the YMCA. We have a little routine that plays out twice a week when it is time for class. I'll remind Rich that we have class this morning and we need to leave at 10:00 a.m. 

Rich: I don't want to go this morning. You go without me. 
Me: But, honey, this class is for you. I am invited to attend because I am your ride!
Rich: I don't like to have an activity that breaks up the morning. Let's skip class today.
Me: We pay extra for this class, it is very helpful to both of us, and you always like it when we go.
Rich: I don't want to go today. When is the next class? We can go then.
Me: We are going today! You always tell me that you are glad that I make you go!
Rich: (Pouty face) 

It helps me stay calm and firm when I anticipate this scenario to play out.  He really does enjoy the class but he NEVER wants to go.  It is so important for Rich to continue to pursue social gatherings. It is also important to do activities that are specifically designed to stimulate his brain functions and coordination. It is important for Rich to see that he is not alone in his struggles. I am thankful that we have this program available at our local YMCA!

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